If you behave a bit more easygoing and have a better attitude, appearing approachable and easy to talk to, then at this moment, all kinds of people will jump out to spread negative energy, complain to you, and vent to you. Some people are not wise enough; many times they don't handle their relationships with others well and lack a sense of boundaries. They see you being polite and easygoing, and they think you can be disturbed and that they can spread negative energy to you. If you respond to them, they will come to bother you from time to time. They don't realize they are not putting in any effort, and they even think it's justified. If you hesitate to refuse them directly out of face-saving, your rhythm will be disrupted, and you will be consumed by their trivial petty matters. But actually, if you ignore them, they don't have big issues, nor are they unable to survive. However, once you respond to them, they will take an inch and want a mile. And if you shut them out at the first attempt, most people will actually be sensible. So, when you care about face and want to be seen as a good person by others, it means you will give many clueless people the trouble of spoiling you.
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If you behave a bit more easygoing and have a better attitude, appearing approachable and easy to talk to, then at this moment, all kinds of people will jump out to spread negative energy, complain to you, and vent to you. Some people are not wise enough; many times they don't handle their relationships with others well and lack a sense of boundaries. They see you being polite and easygoing, and they think you can be disturbed and that they can spread negative energy to you. If you respond to them, they will come to bother you from time to time. They don't realize they are not putting in any effort, and they even think it's justified. If you hesitate to refuse them directly out of face-saving, your rhythm will be disrupted, and you will be consumed by their trivial petty matters. But actually, if you ignore them, they don't have big issues, nor are they unable to survive. However, once you respond to them, they will take an inch and want a mile. And if you shut them out at the first attempt, most people will actually be sensible. So, when you care about face and want to be seen as a good person by others, it means you will give many clueless people the trouble of spoiling you.