I have a friend who has been in a relationship for three years.

The girl always says she’s not materialistic, very independent, and doesn’t usually spend his money.
At the end of last year, she said she wanted to get married, but the prerequisite was to buy a house first.
My friend did the math reluctantly, and the down payment was about 800,000 yuan, but he only had 300,000 yuan.
She said they could figure it out together.
Later, he started working hard to earn more money, taking on private jobs and side gigs, almost without rest for half a year.
One day, he couldn’t hold on anymore and asked her:
“If we buy the house two years later, is that okay?”
She was silent for a moment and said:
“My parents can’t wait.”
After that, the two gradually drifted apart.
On the day they broke up, she said:
“You’re actually pretty good, just not quite suitable for marriage.”
He later found out that her family had already introduced her to someone who could buy a house outright.
He told me:
“She’s not really materialistic; she just doesn’t want to be materialistic with me.”