Lately, I've been thinking about a question: why do so many people say they are stuck in the cycle of indulgent couples, yet can't seem to break free?

Look, the so-called indulgent couple is like this: two people get together to eat, play games, travel, and buy each other small gifts. Life feels relaxed and free. But as soon as real-world problems arise, conflicts come up. Some start complaining, others start criticizing, and neither side wants to take responsibility. Once they can no longer continue the carefree days of eating, drinking, and having fun, the relationship begins to fall apart.

You might ask, how do we earn money together? Should we get married? How do we negotiate the bride price? Who is responsible for the house and car? When these questions come up, many indulgent couples' first reaction isn't to think about how to help each other solve problems, but whether the other person will hold them back or if they should leave. That really hits hard.

I think in today's era of free love, relationships have become somewhat cheap. Often, we're just looking for someone to fill our desires and spend life with, without much deep connection. But is there really absolute freedom? Income minus desires—that's true freedom.

So, if you meet someone who is beyond just an indulgent couple—someone who not only drinks and eats with you but is also willing to face and solve problems together—even when life gets tough, you can endure it side by side. If you find that, you're truly lucky. Only such a relationship has real weight.