For those who feel irritable when hearing their parents speak, it does not mean they are unfilial. If you find yourself in such a situation, feeling inexplicably irritable upon hearing your parents talk, while generally having a good temper, it is just that you cannot control your emotions with your parents. There is often an inexplicable anger that arises. In fact, this is an emergency response after the internal strife within a family of origin. Most likely, as a child, when communicating with your parents, you did not receive positive feedback. Every word they said carried a hint of denial, sarcasm, or belittlement of your thoughts. In order to avoid this mental torment, you may unconsciously exhibit aggression as a defensive mechanism. Under a long-term suppressive communication pattern, you may feel a deep sense of helplessness, easily leading to anxiety, sensitivity, and low self-esteem, resulting in an instinctive irritation towards your parents as you grow up, not wanting to contact them, avoiding phone calls, and even preferring to read text instead of listening to voice messages. Therefore, don’t think that those who dislike their parents are unfilial or have bad tempers. One who has not endured the suffering of others should not advise others to be good. It is important to understand that a child who has not been loved sincerely has already exhausted all efforts if they haven’t gone astray. It is impressive for others to climb to the top of the mountain, but it is even more commendable for you to climb from the valley to halfway up the mountain.
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For those who feel irritable when hearing their parents speak, it does not mean they are unfilial. If you find yourself in such a situation, feeling inexplicably irritable upon hearing your parents talk, while generally having a good temper, it is just that you cannot control your emotions with your parents. There is often an inexplicable anger that arises. In fact, this is an emergency response after the internal strife within a family of origin. Most likely, as a child, when communicating with your parents, you did not receive positive feedback. Every word they said carried a hint of denial, sarcasm, or belittlement of your thoughts. In order to avoid this mental torment, you may unconsciously exhibit aggression as a defensive mechanism. Under a long-term suppressive communication pattern, you may feel a deep sense of helplessness, easily leading to anxiety, sensitivity, and low self-esteem, resulting in an instinctive irritation towards your parents as you grow up, not wanting to contact them, avoiding phone calls, and even preferring to read text instead of listening to voice messages. Therefore, don’t think that those who dislike their parents are unfilial or have bad tempers. One who has not endured the suffering of others should not advise others to be good. It is important to understand that a child who has not been loved sincerely has already exhausted all efforts if they haven’t gone astray. It is impressive for others to climb to the top of the mountain, but it is even more commendable for you to climb from the valley to halfway up the mountain.